How can we “be the change”?
We so often want everything and everyone in our little world to change. If only the personnel in the office would be nicer to me…If only my husband would treat me better or do things for me …If only I had more friends… If only my children would listen to me…Does any of these statements sound familiar?
I think we all struggle with attempting to align our lives with what we perceive to be our right way. The concern with this particular alignment would be to what you are aligning your world? The Ego, or the Source? In the questions I have asked, all have a very simple answer…Be the change you want to see. Doesn’t this sound easy! The truth of the matter is, change does take some effort, but like all things, it is doable. If the persons in the office are making your life difficult, identify what the action or the attitude is that is concerning to you. Once you have done so - be the change, once you become the change, your space will
automatically change. An example: Your colleagues are not greeting you or ignoring you or perhaps they take credit for you work. In that case; greet first, friendly, audible and with a big smile, you will notice it is very difficult for someone to ignore you when you greet them properly, even more so when there are other people around. The ego is a hungry beast. If someone is taking credit for you work, find an alternative way of submitting the work so that there is no dispute where it came from. Do this kindly and you will have no further issues. There are always alternatives for each and every situation that is positive, and will have a positive result for all parties involved. Remember we wish harm to no other being.
When it comes to relationships, and what we desire to have, the best advice is to give that which you desire. If you want your partner to speak of you fondly or lovingly, speak of them in the same manner. I have all too often heard one partner insulting the other and complaining of everything they do wrong, and how they should change, especially to other people. If this is how you choose to behave and treat your loved one, how on earth can you expect of your partner to treat you any different? Here are a few very small things we forget to do on a daily base when it comes to all our loved ones:
Say please and thank you; I am astonished at partners who cannot be bothered to just say please or thank you. You know gratitude is a universal law directly linked to prosperity…..and then you wonder why.
Remind them that you love them; (One I love a day, can change your whole world). I remember a few years back working with a young man who was gobsmacked every time my husband phoned, and I always end the call with; I love you. He was shocked to realise that this was, and still is, our norm. How it can be any different?
Acknowledge your loved one of the things they do, for you, and around your living space; when last have you acknowledged your partner for who they are in your life? Be appreciative of who they are, and what they represent in your life, and in that of your children. I remember many years back an interview with various men who had affairs, and also interviews with the obviously livid wives. Do you know that the reason all the men gave for their error in judgement was ?That they received Appreciation from the other person. Do you value your partner enough to appreciate all they do for you? And if so TELL THEM!!!!!
Timeout during an argument can be wondrous, have an agreement to rather walk away and revisit when you are calm and can have a proper discussion. The little snippets we spew at each other can most of the time destroy your relationship. If you are prone to always have the last word…shut up, walk away, breath, think, and later return with a conducive and respectful answer or solution.
The biggest gift we can give ourselves and the universe is to respect each other, and if we know that we are not the best match for each other, love yourself and the other person enough to move on.
You know when it comes to our precious little ones; I think we all make judgment errors. Not because we don’t care, but because we too are learning. I think that doing your utmost best to be present when you are with your children, can serve both parties very well. This does take some effort. We are so used to multi-tasking and having scatter brains, that when we get home, we have the same state of mind there too. You know in my question above, I mentioned that your children never listen, well the question becomes, do you ever listen to them? Do you just give orders, and want them to calm down as quickly as possible so that you can still have me time? I am sure you have noticed this does not work, as a matter of fact, you have less time and are more exhausted after they are in bed. You see, the principal stays the same in all your spaces. You get what you give. If you listen to them, have a schedule to which you all stick, which includes family time, you will end up with too much me time. Again be the change in your spaces you want to see. Also, never under estimate a loving and respectful bond between partners as a result you will have healthy balanced children.
I read such a true and tier jerking post on FB (this is not an exact copy):
A little boy was asking his father what he earned per hour, and the agitated father commented it was $100, the boy then asked him to borrow $50. The father continued to go off on a rampage of how money does not grow on trees, etc. and plonked down on the couch being tired and all. Later, the father felt guilty and thought he should perhaps find out from the little boy what he needed the money for. So he got up, went to the boy’s room, and asked what he need the money for. The little boy picked up his pillow and got together all the bank notes that were there. Meanwhile the father carried on about the fact that he has money and wanted more…..the little boy turned to his father gave him what he had and in explanation of the other $50 said, Dad I want to buy an hour of your time.
Please do not regret one moment in your life, especially not with your children. They will do anything in their power to love and please you. Please return the favour; they deserve nothing less than your utmost best.
It must be quite the shock to realize that you can only change your life and your space! You make the difference in your space, no one else.
If you want a great environment to work in – create your space accordingly
If you want a great loving partner – be a great loving partner.
If you want kind and well behaved children – be a kind parent with a listening ear.
And for goodness sak,e be there for one another, and remember we all need love attention and hug or kiss from time to time. You will receive only that which you give.
You are blessed.
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